Sober 4 life gentleman seeks sober woman

First name

Peter

I Can Speak

English

I Would Describe Myself As

I am an easy-going sober-for-life gentleman that seeks a casual intimate relationship with a sober woman with like interests.I am college educated (BA in Eng Lit with some grad work). I love theatre arts, music, foreign & classic cinema and nature. I've been married & divorced twice (1st drunk, 2nd sober) but have not had a close female relationship for a while. I am self-employed and have let work dominate my life. Sobriety changed my life radically. I changed from a person of low-self esteem, self critical thinking and constant depression to a man comfortable in his own skin who is optimistic and open minded about life. I was able to excise the "critical parent" that lived in my head and become the curious, self accepting individual I am today.
I seek to find a sober woman who continues to grow emotionally, to want to learn about herself. I seek a relationship based on mutual respect and acceptance of the other as they are. My history with women has been less than satisfactory, largely based on my own inability to be open and honest. I carried a lot of garbage around in my head based on my childhood. I never felt accepted and loved by my Mother and thus developed a modus operandi where I tried to manipulate any relationship with a woman so that the overcome would equal her acceptance and caring for me. That is not who I am today. I try very hard to come into any relationship with a few pre-determined expectations as possible, save for the hope that we will like each other and become friends. In my life as a drunk any problems I experienced were never my fault. I often saw life in a negative way that meant I would always fail. Life was a closed book!
Today my mind and my heart are open, expansive and not restrictive. I take responsibility for my actions, my failures and successes. I love sunrises and sunsets today. I hear the rain on the roof and it makes me smile, it makes my heart glad. Today I don't go to many meetings unless I go with a friend. Don't get me wrong because I never forget that I am just another sober drunk, one step away from losing it all if I forget and take that drink. I have 38 years of sobriety and part of my sober history was being a recovery counselor for 15 years. I'm comfortable in my sobriety today and I still practice the principles I learned early on. If I'm uncomfortable in any setting, I leave. I don't argue or preach sobriety but I wii engage anyone that is truly interested in addiction.
It would be great to meet a sober woman and attend meetings. It would be great to make living sober a part of a new relationship. I hope and pray that happens for me.

Sign

Sagittarius

My Body Type Is

Average

My Height Is

6' 2 (1.88 m)

My Eyes Are

Hazel

My Ethnicity Is

Caucasian

My Marital Situation Is

Divorced

I Have Kids

No

I Want Kids

No

My Best Feature Is

Eyes

My Hair Is

Silver

I Have One Or More Of These

Dog

Willing To Relocate

Yes

My Education Level Is

University Degree

My Current Employment Status Is

Self-employed

My Speciality Is

Other

My Job Title Is

Rideshare driver

I Make This Much In A Year

$75,000USD To $99,999USD

I Live

Alone, With Pet(s)

At Home

All Is Calm

I'm A Smoker

No

Back In High School, I Was A

Outcast

My Social Behavior Is

Shy, Observant, Friendly, Flirtatious, Outgoing

My Interest And Hobbies Are

Dining, Reading, Sports, Learning, Music, Tv, Movies, Internet, Theater, Travel, Camping, Volunteering

My Idea Of A Great Time Is

Staying At Home, The Movies, Relaxing, Reading A Book, Tv, Going To A Museum

An Ideal First Date Would Be

To have a nice lunch and a walk in the park or the beach talking and getting to know and experience each other.

I've Always Wanted To Try

Just being myself with someone new (it's been quite some time since I was on a first date.

My Friends Describe Me As Being

Friendly, Cool

My Religion Is

Spiritual But Not Religious

I Attend Services

Never

My Political Views Are

Very Liberal

My Goal In Life Is

Keep growing, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Life is short and I don't want to let pass by those desires and feelings I have. I want to give back to life just as so many others have given to me.

My Kind Of Humor Is

Dry / Sarcastic, Friendly, Goofy

On Tv, I Always Watch

News, Dramas, Movies, Sports

When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A

Action, Science Fiction, Comedy, Drama, Animation

When Listening To Music, I Always Listen To

Rock, Classical, Blues, Jazz, Latin, New age, Reggae, Folk

When I Read, I Always Read

Classic, Fiction, History, Humor, Mystery, Science Fiction, Sports, Erotica

My Idea Of Fun Is

Playing card or board games with friends and teasing each other and laughing. Going on a picnic at the beach or in the park and playing frizz bee. Going out for a nice dinner date followed by a great foreign film. Hanging out on a rainy day and having a stimulating discussion with my girlfriend. Going for a drive in the Sonoma County back roads and stopping for a bite at a roadside cafe. Taking a trip to anywhere with a woman I love.

What Do You Find Attractive?

Wit, Flirtatiousness, Spontaneity, Sensitivity, Empathy, Humor, Good Looks, Thoughtfullness, Intelligence

What Do You Look For?

A woman who is curious and expressive. A woman who is comfortable in her own skin and who likes sharing any experiences we create together. A woman who likes to speak her mind about her feelings and desires. A woman who likes her sexuality and enjoys sharing it. A woman who enjoys touching and kissing. A woman who wants to feel sexual joy and pleasure and also enjoys giving the same.

What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?

Friend, Intimate, Committed