Sober 4 life gentleman seeks sober woman
Phc46
Calistoga, California | Mann Suche eine/n Frau
Basis Information
Vorname
Peter
Ich kann sprechen
Englisch
Ich würde mich selbst beschreiben als
I am an easy-going sober-for-life gentleman that seeks a casual intimate relationship with a sober woman with like interests.I am college educated (BA in Eng Lit with some grad work). I love theatre arts, music, foreign & classic cinema and nature. I've been married & divorced twice (1st drunk, 2nd sober) but have not had a close female relationship for a while. I am self-employed and have let work dominate my life. Sobriety changed my life radically. I changed from a person of low-self esteem, self critical thinking and constant depression to a man comfortable in his own skin who is optimistic and open minded about life. I was able to excise the "critical parent" that lived in my head and become the curious, self accepting individual I am today.
I seek to find a sober woman who continues to grow emotionally, to want to learn about herself. I seek a relationship based on mutual respect and acceptance of the other as they are. My history with women has been less than satisfactory, largely based on my own inability to be open and honest. I carried a lot of garbage around in my head based on my childhood. I never felt accepted and loved by my Mother and thus developed a modus operandi where I tried to manipulate any relationship with a woman so that the overcome would equal her acceptance and caring for me. That is not who I am today. I try very hard to come into any relationship with a few pre-determined expectations as possible, save for the hope that we will like each other and become friends. In my life as a drunk any problems I experienced were never my fault. I often saw life in a negative way that meant I would always fail. Life was a closed book!
Today my mind and my heart are open, expansive and not restrictive. I take responsibility for my actions, my failures and successes. I love sunrises and sunsets today. I hear the rain on the roof and it makes me smile, it makes my heart glad. Today I don't go to many meetings unless I go with a friend. Don't get me wrong because I never forget that I am just another sober drunk, one step away from losing it all if I forget and take that drink. I have 38 years of sobriety and part of my sober history was being a recovery counselor for 15 years. I'm comfortable in my sobriety today and I still practice the principles I learned early on. If I'm uncomfortable in any setting, I leave. I don't argue or preach sobriety but I wii engage anyone that is truly interested in addiction.
It would be great to meet a sober woman and attend meetings. It would be great to make living sober a part of a new relationship. I hope and pray that happens for me.
I seek to find a sober woman who continues to grow emotionally, to want to learn about herself. I seek a relationship based on mutual respect and acceptance of the other as they are. My history with women has been less than satisfactory, largely based on my own inability to be open and honest. I carried a lot of garbage around in my head based on my childhood. I never felt accepted and loved by my Mother and thus developed a modus operandi where I tried to manipulate any relationship with a woman so that the overcome would equal her acceptance and caring for me. That is not who I am today. I try very hard to come into any relationship with a few pre-determined expectations as possible, save for the hope that we will like each other and become friends. In my life as a drunk any problems I experienced were never my fault. I often saw life in a negative way that meant I would always fail. Life was a closed book!
Today my mind and my heart are open, expansive and not restrictive. I take responsibility for my actions, my failures and successes. I love sunrises and sunsets today. I hear the rain on the roof and it makes me smile, it makes my heart glad. Today I don't go to many meetings unless I go with a friend. Don't get me wrong because I never forget that I am just another sober drunk, one step away from losing it all if I forget and take that drink. I have 38 years of sobriety and part of my sober history was being a recovery counselor for 15 years. I'm comfortable in my sobriety today and I still practice the principles I learned early on. If I'm uncomfortable in any setting, I leave. I don't argue or preach sobriety but I wii engage anyone that is truly interested in addiction.
It would be great to meet a sober woman and attend meetings. It would be great to make living sober a part of a new relationship. I hope and pray that happens for me.
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Erscheinung & Situation
Mein Körpertyp ist
Durchschnittlich
Meine Größe ist
6' 2 (1.88 m)
Meine Augen sind
Haselnussbraun
Meine Herkunft ist
Kaukasisch
Mein Familienstand ist
Geschieden
Ich habe Kinder
Nein
Ich möchte Kinder
Nein
Meine beste Eigenschaft ist
Augen
Mein Haar ist
Silber
Ich habe ein oder mehrere folgende Haustiere
Hund
Bereit umzuziehen
Ja
Status
Mein Ausbildungsgrad ist
Universitäts-Abschluss
Mein derzeitiges Dienstverhältnis ist
Selbstständig
Meine Spezialität ist
Andere
Mein Job-Titel ist
Rideshare driver
Ich verdiene im Jahr so viel
$75,000USD bis $99,999USD
Ich lebe
Alleine, Mit Haustier(en)
Zuhause
Alles ist ruhig
Ich bin Raucher
Nein
Persönlichkeit
In der Hauptschule war ich
Außenseiter
Mein soziales Verhalten ist
Schüchtern, Aufmerksam, Freundlich, Flirtwillig, Offen
Meine Interessen und Hobbys sind
Essen gehen, Lesen, Sport, Lernen, Musik, TV, Filme, Internet, Theater, Reisen, Camping, Ehrenamtliche Arbeit
Meine Vorstellung einer tollen Zeit ist
Daheim bleiben, Filme, Entspannen, Ein Buch lesen, TV, In ein Museum gehen
Ein ideales erstes Date wäre
To have a nice lunch and a walk in the park or the beach talking and getting to know and experience each other.
Ich wollte immer schon versuchen
Just being myself with someone new (it's been quite some time since I was on a first date.
Meine Freunde beschreiben mich als
Freundlich, Cool
Ansichten
Meine Religion ist
Spirituell aber nicht religiös
Ich besuche Gottesdienste
Nie
Mein Ziel im Leben ist
Keep growing, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Life is short and I don't want to let pass by those desires and feelings I have. I want to give back to life just as so many others have given to me.
Mein Art Humor ist
Trocken / Sarkastisch, Freundlich, Albern
Geschmack
Im Fernsehen sehe ich mir Folgendes gerne an
Nachrichten, Dramen, Filme, Sport
Wenn ich ins Kino gehe, sehe ich immer
Action, Science Fiction, Comedy, Drama, Animation
Wenn ich mir Musik anhöre, höre ich immer
Rock, Klassik, Blues, Jazz, Lating, New Age, Reggae, Folk
Wenn ich lese, lese ich immer
Klassik, Fiction, Geschichte, Humor, Mystery, Science Fiction, Sport, Erotisches
Meine Vorstellung von Spaß ist
Playing card or board games with friends and teasing each other and laughing. Going on a picnic at the beach or in the park and playing frizz bee. Going out for a nice dinner date followed by a great foreign film. Hanging out on a rainy day and having a stimulating discussion with my girlfriend. Going for a drive in the Sonoma County back roads and stopping for a bite at a roadside cafe. Taking a trip to anywhere with a woman I love.
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Was findest du attraktiv?
Esprit, Flirtwillig, Spontanität, Sensibilität, Einfühlungsvermögen, Humor, Gutes Aussehen, Nachdenklich, Intelligenz
Wonach suchst du?
A woman who is curious and expressive. A woman who is comfortable in her own skin and who likes sharing any experiences we create together. A woman who likes to speak her mind about her feelings and desires. A woman who likes her sexuality and enjoys sharing it. A woman who enjoys touching and kissing. A woman who wants to feel sexual joy and pleasure and also enjoys giving the same.
Nach welcher Art Beziehung suchst du?
Freund, Vertrauter, Verpflichtendes